lovelovelove.

I know I'm such an expert. So you all would be coming to me for advice on love of course, I'm probably the first one that comes to mind when you need love advice. Sadly enough sarcasm is more my kind of thing. Fun fact #1: someone once told me I hid my intelligence behind my sarcasm, to this day I'm not so sure if I agree or not. But back on topic, I have a few problems with love. Mainly it revolves around how people treat it. So here I am watching the Today Show, which I personally lovelovelove. But then Kathie Lee and Hoda Kotb get to chatting about how many times they had fell in love. And they came up with answers around 4-5. Not only that bothered me, but then Kathie Lee mentions the first time she fell in love at 15 and that it had screwed her up for ten years and that she was thankful her daughter didn't have to experience that. Before I state my strong willed opinions, these are just my opinions and do not necessarily have any good reason for anyone to agree with me. But honestly, when we open our minds to fall in "love" multiple times, we give more reason for our future marriages to fail. I mean think about it, you are in "love" and that's great but when you fall in love and decide that's the person you want to marry you've already given a big part of yourself to another or others. You've opened your heart up to the possibility others being the one. You were in love and thought it would last and it didn't. I feel as if we need to be careful when we define our love. Guard it really. Really think about it and ask yourself is this really the true love. And I get it that's really hard to figure out, it's something you've never felt before, so you think you're sure but are you? There was a time when I thought I was in love. A time when I thought I'd had my first love and then my true one. I remember my doubts though, asking myself if I was sure I wanted to refer to it as love. I would go back and forth not sure what to call it. To find out, I just really cared about him, I had a love for him but I wasn't in love with him. That's the thing, we have to be sure that it's not only that we simply care for them deeply. But there needs to be more. I mean when you get down to it, love is compromise. You have to be willing to do anything and everything for that person, and I think that is how we should define love. Would we take a bullet for them? Or maybe stand by them on their hardest day? Even if that day ends up lasting years? Love is when you are willing to stay with them, when it's harder than hard. I just think saying we fall in love multiple times is a cop out, it's like giving ourselves an escape route and not knowing it. Because if it doesn't work out with them, then it's fine, I've been in love before and will be again. That just doesn't seem real to me, and I hope you find that person that you are going to stand by no matter what. And not the person that solely gives you butterflies, there needs to be more.